Why getting married is like buying shoes

I don’t really think a marriage can ever be defined as something so small as a shoe. But when I think about how hard life can be; the ups, the downs, the twists, the turns- there are always new adventures to face and new hurdles to jump over.Just like the pair of shoes, you need maintenance, upkeep, touch ups. A quick polish here and there to show you care and notice and to them you’ll look brand new, with these in mind I can say "MARRIAGE is like a shoe.
When you wear oversize, be ready to drag it along throughout life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains throughout life”. One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is.Dear Singles, when you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE: Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and belief, the one who you meet at your life's journey. It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife.

POSITION: All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place. There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, sneakers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere. Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values.

PERCEPTION: In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (Parents, Pastors and Relationship coaches, etc.).And most importantly to avoid much time wasting time, simply consult the SHOE MANUFACTURER to tell you your size (GOD ALMIGHTY)."You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage." Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend wedding and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. Wait!!! It is not just the wedding oh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it.

1.Ask questions -Where is this shoe made from?(Background)

2.What’s the size (Values?)

3.How much (His/her interest)

4.How long will it last (His/her Character?)

5.Who made it? (Is she/he of the same faith, this is compatibility)

6.Will it match me? (This is whether he/she love you and will accept you the way you are)

7.Know the occasion you are buying for. (Too many people buy for convenience, cheap sale, spur of the moment. Wait for a lifelong commitment.)

8 Shoes are going to get scuffed. (Life = Forgiveness. I would rather learn how to clean and repair my shoes then to walk around afraid to live in them. We all make mistakes. Our spouses are going to make mistakes. Keep walking together.)

9.They can stink!! (HA HA, but it’s true!! If anyone says their marriage is perfect I would say let me smell your shoes. We all have things God is helping us overcome. Yet, we don’t need to keep our nose in the odor – we can always rise above it.)

Dear one, remember many are dragging their feet and they would hardly reach their destinies, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars. Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the size from afar so come close, build a relationship first.

Remember you have to fight to keep your man/ woman from the claws of others…and believe me, there are people aiming for yours like a deer in hunting season. Your partner, no matter how much love there is remains a realistic being. If they don’t get what they’ve always needed from you, chances are they’ll go somewhere else to get it. Take a look at the rate of divorce in recent times; it could happen to you too. You have to pick up your game. Treat your man/ lady like you could lose them anytime; right now even. Now I never said anything about a tracking device or a private investigator, all I’m trying to pass across is you should love more than you loved yesterday, and the day before that.