How to Pick yourself up after A failure

No one likes to fail. Whether it is at work, at home or in another area of your life, failure is painful and it can also be costly in terms of time, money, or both.Life as we know it is a series of successes and failures.But failure is a normal part of life. If you never, ever suffer a failure, then you are probably not pushing yourself to your full potential. Often, it is only through failure that we eventually meet with success. In all forms and on all platforms, failure is a predecessor and most of the times a pre-requisite for success.

People generally feel dejected and lost after failing at some avenue or some point in life. So first of all let us decode what failure is after all, since so many people seem to be affected by it. FAILURE, or the act of failing, is an attempt at which you don’t succeed, isn’t it? Now if you shot an arrow and it missed it the mark, it’s OK. It happens to all of us. So, it missed the mark and you have to do it all over again, but that is what you do in life, right? You work. And then if you fail you work harder.

How do you Pick yourself  up after A failure?

1.Record your successes and failures

Think of all the times in the past when you have succeeded.

Maybe you got a promotion that you worked for last year, or you had a great GPA in college, or you lost weight, or you learned to play a musical instrument.

You might want to write down a list of successes in things that you have accomplished over the past few years, whether big or small.

If you ever lack confidence, you can go back and read over that list.

Your past successes are important but so are your past failures. You have made mistakes before, and you have survived them. Perhaps you did badly in an exam, or screwed something up at work, or lost your temper and had to apologise.

It is not fun to think about the times when things went wrong, but by acknowledging your failures, you can remind yourself that today is no different. Just as you recovered in the past, you can recover from your recent failure too.

2.Make a decision

Whatever went wrong, you are probably facing some sort of decision, once the initial consequences are over. For instance, perhaps you took out a credit card and ended up in debt. You are facing two choices: keep using the card, or make it inaccessible in some way.

Do not rush into making hasty decisions but do look for a forward path. That might require some deep thinking.

3.You can help yourself by:

• Getting some extra advice and support with a particular area of your life, perhaps from a professional such as a doctor, personal trainer, life coach, or counsellor.

• Reading and learning more, if a lack of knowledge led to your failure.

• Talking through your options with a loved one or close friend, or writing in a journal about the decision (s) that you face.

“Doing nothing” is certainly an option but it is a decision in itself, and often one that won’t lead to anything positive.

Whatever failure you are struggling with right now, you can learn from it and move on.

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