Dr. Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., psychotherapist/sex therapist: Always make sure your partner comes first.
Why?
Well, first, it takes all the pressure off you to try to make her orgasm through intercourse, which is unusual and very difficult. Almost all women need direct clitoral stimulation to come. (If she is orgasming through intercourse, she’s either already turned on and her clitoral roots are being stimulated or she’s come once, so she’s more sensitive and can come again more easily.)
Why?
Well, first, it takes all the pressure off you to try to make her orgasm through intercourse, which is unusual and very difficult. Almost all women need direct clitoral stimulation to come. (If she is orgasming through intercourse, she’s either already turned on and her clitoral roots are being stimulated or she’s come once, so she’s more sensitive and can come again more easily.)